Men and women nowadays are supposed to be equal. Yet women show more than ever their need to be controlled in every aspect of their lives, just not by men. Well, I am not absolutely certain about that, but, hey, if that’s what they want to believe, it’s fine by me.

Maybe we still go through the era of change of women, but it should be over by now. Technically, we are still at the third wave of feminism, but it proceeds waaay to slow.

So, as women, we accomplished quite a lot. We can vote, we can work,we can have proper education, we can drive, pretty much we can do everything we want to, in most countries, anyway. And most of us can’t even perceive how it would be like to feel inferior.

Yet, it feels wrong, it’s like nothing has changed. We don’t depend on men, but we do depend on our bosses. Some are lucky enough to be the bosses, but this does not apply to most women. We don’t depend on our husband’s money, but we need credit cards and loans, so we depend on our banks.

About career, we have become even more obsessed than men. And it’s perfectly understandable, because we have to rise to the top. I, myself, am a very ambitious person, and really competitive, and would just about do everything I could to take a promotion (within certain ethical limits, of course), and then another, and then another. It never really stops when you have great expectations of yourself.

But all this, makes us more dependable from our jobs. And if our boss is a man, in the end we depend on him. So are we really free? I believe this leaves us back to where we started. And really confused. Because we are men at work but in the evening we have to be women, mothers, lovers.

I am not certain, but I sometimes have this weird thought that they take advantage of us. Not just men, the system we are brought up into. If you work and have a baby you can leave your job for three months usually. If you are healthy and had no implications, that is. But three months is not nearly enough. You then have to depend on other people, mothers, mothers-in-law, or just ambiguous nursery schools.

Where is the freedom in all this? Cause, forgive me, I feel trapped. Feminism was created by women, but it would make sense if men had invented it, too. And all this feminism issue, about what women should wear or not, if they should allow men to to open the car door for them and all these stereotypes are just plain stupid. I don’t accept anyone’s rules about how I should behave or not. We all should be able to think for ourselves and have in mind the person we are with and why we behave however be behave under certain circumstances.

Of course we are all equal, no need to fight for that anymore. Equal, not superior. Things have changed, but us, women, don’t seem to accept it. Instead of fighting for our right to be men, we should embrace our nature and demand for others to accept it too. Stop wasting time worrying if what you are wearing is feminist-friendly, try and be yourself.